In Human Design, we often talk about so-called conditionality. Let’s try to figure out what is the nature of this phenomenon. In essence, conditionality in Human Design is a collection of external factors that influence us. It can be someone else’s opinion or stereotypes – what our relatives instill in us or what we read from books.
How does conditionality form
Often, what comes to us from the outside instantly penetrates into the right hemisphere of our brain, which is responsible for intuition and non-verbal perception of information, and is transformed into a certain emotion. That is, we absorb certain information on an emotional level. Let’s say from early childhood we were taught that we must be successful. Passing this instruction through us, we felt delight and it seemed to us that being successful was really great.
Thus, even in early childhood, we could set a goal for ourselves: to achieve success by all means. And this very goal literally pursues us through life. It seems to us that if we do not become successful, then our life will be wasted. A certain convention is formed in our minds, which looks something like this: every person must certainly be successful.
Let’s see how this works psychologically. If we are taught this or that thing from childhood, it gradually becomes fixed in our consciousness, forming a certain neural connection.
For example, parents may tell us that money is bad. We form a neural connection between money and negativity, which in turn gives rise to certain complexes, for example: fear of money, inability to earn, inability to afford something expensive and of high quality. Or, for example, teachers can tell us that we have a math ability. Strongly impressed by this idea, we involuntarily form in our head a connection between our abilities and mathematical sciences, later we can enter physics and mathematics and even finish it. However, in adult life with all this baggage, we probably simply will not find use for ourselves and will be very disappointed both in ourselves and in our talents.
And all because we initially did not have any inclination for mathematics, we just once managed to successfully solve a difficult problem. In fact, we may have a penchant for history (Channel 13-33) or drawing (Channel 10-57), but we don’t even know about that and try to initiate various activities for ourselves from the Mind, which a priori cannot lead to success.
Getting rid of conditionality and neural connections can be very difficult. It will take a lot of time and effort to reach out to your true self and tune in with your nature. But it’s worth it.
How can we get rid of conditionality
I will give just one of the examples of how you can formulate new neural connections in your mind and partially free yourself from the conditionality that haunts us all our life.
Take a piece of paper and a pen. Write down those beliefs that relate to you, your character, temperament, talents and at the same time came to you from the outside (they were inspired by your parents, teachers, etc.) And then take a look at your Bodygraph and try to realize and feel how close to you these the very beliefs and whether they correspond to your true nature.
Don’t try to analyze your beliefs from your mind, try to feel them through your Strategy. Let’s say you are a Generator and your Strategy is to respond. And you have the belief that in order to feel happy, you must become rich. Repeat this conviction until you feel how much it resonates with you. If you don’t feel a response, try to formulate a new belief – one that will resonate with you. For example: in order to feel happy, I must be in harmony with myself and with the world.
Again, conditionality will not disappear from a couple of elementary actions or even realizations. Get ready for long and hard work. The main thing to remember is that everything you do in order to tune in with your nature is an amazing and exciting experiment for you!