We all make promises one way or another. But alas, sometimes it happens that we can’t keep our promises. Not because we are bad and intentionally want to hurt someone. The problem is that we are not always able to adequately assess our own strengths. When we make a promise to someone, we may simply not realize that we don’t have the resources to keep it. Of course, in the first place, this has a negative effect on our relationships with others. But worst of all, it affects us directly.
How does this happen in terms of Human Design? Technically, Ego Center is responsible for the ability to keep one’s word. Ego Center and keeping promises directly correlate with each other.
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If you have defined Ego Center, you are naturally good at keeping your word and tend to only promise what you can actually do. So you usually have no problem keeping your promises.
But if you have open Ego Center, you may have trouble keeping the promises you make. The fact is that you are not always able to adequately gauge your own strength and are constantly striving to become better. The desire to pump yourself and your skills sometimes makes you promise what you can’t deliver.
So how do those with open Ego Center learn to keep their promises?
Below we’ll give you a few recommendations that may be helpful to you. If you follow them regularly, the result won’t be long in coming!
Before making a promise, pause and try to analyze your strengths and the circumstances that could prevent you from making it.
Even if you think you won’t have a problem with what they want from you, don’t give a definitive answer right away. Explain that you’ll be able to say for sure if you’re ready to take the job offered (or anything else) after some time. This is especially true if you have Emotional Authority.
Don’t take on more than one commitment at once.
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It’s especially helpful to follow this recommendation at work. If you have already promised to hand over one project by a certain date, and then another opportunity to take on something else, try not to do it. Make it a rule of thumb: One promise at a time.
Plan how you’ll keep a particular promise.
Try to figure out in advance where you’re going to start with this or that pledge, what you’ll need, how much time you’re willing to spend on it, etc. It is desirable that you have a general plan and a plan for each day.
If you promise to fulfill this or that task by a certain date, feel free to add two or three hours or days to the estimated date, depending on the situation.
Let’s say you take on a new project. Your professional experience suggests that objectively you can handle it in a week. Just in case, add a few days to this period. So you’ll have much more room to maneuver, and you will feel more relaxed.
Set a personal deadline.
Even if you promised the customer to deliver the work in a week, set a harder deadline for yourself, such as five days, and mark this date on your calendar. If you do get the job done before the deadline, you will still have time to double-check everything, make additional changes to your work and thus deliver the project to the customer in the best quality!
Reward yourself for keeping your promises.
If you promised something to someone and kept your word, be sure to think of some reward for yourself. Buy yourself something you’ve always dreamed of, take a little vacation, etc. So you’ll have much more incentive next time, again, to keep the promise.
Love yourself and learn to keep your word!