All of us have faced emotional pressure at least once in our lives. What is it? Often psychological pressure is exerted on us to make a decision or do something that is expected of us. In an emotionally unstable person, psychological pressure can often make us feel uncomfortable.
We are primarily pressured through the area of feelings and emotions. When under psychological pressure and experiencing certain mostly negative emotions, we often make decisions that we regret.
Say, for example, you have quarreled with your business partner. You are a long time to figure out the relationship, trying to come to a consensus. Eventually you were able to agree to continue cooperation, but your partner spoke to you so tough and adamant that as a result you were forced to agree to terms that do not suit you.
Why does this happen? The fact is that the moment we are put under psychological (emotional) pressure, we want to get rid of it as soon as possible. After all, if we are spoken to in a harsh form, it can be very difficult to endure.
What types of psychological pressure are there?
To begin with, it is worth noting that pressure can be exerted at both the verbal and non-verbal level.
On the nonverbal level, pressure is expressed mainly through aggressive and closed postures.
For example, during an argument, if a person closes down, it can often be an indication that in this way he is threatening us to break up the relationship. In this case, we can do something that we did not expect and in particular go for reconciliation through sacrifices and concessions.
As for psychological pressure on a verbal level, there are several types of manipulation. Here are the main ones.
One of the most frequent forms of psychological pressure. For example, we may be asked, “Why did you do that?” or “Don’t you realize you’re wrong? When we hear such questions, we automatically become uncomfortable. After all, in essence, such rhetorical questions can be equated with an accusation.
Many manipulators build their psychological attacks by pressuring the guilt of the interlocutor. That is, in essence, they impose on the interlocutor a feeling that he did not originally experience.
For example, you turned in an important project at work. However, a little delayed with the deadline. In this case, the boss may begin to exert psychological pressure on you, focusing on the fact that you did not hand over the project on time, as a result, you will feel guilty, even if initially you knew that nothing bad could happen if you delayed a little.
This is the most honest manipulation. In this case, a person openly tells the interlocutor what measures he will resort to if the latter does not comply with his conditions. But despite the honesty, the psychological consequences of such manipulation can be just as unfortunate as those of the previous two.
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For example, in the case of a project not submitted on time, the boss could directly threaten to fire you.
But here you need to remember that if the person was capable of some decisive action, he would not threaten you, but would start to act immediately. And that is why people with a stable emotional and nervous system often simply do not react to direct threats.
Now let’s look at this issue from the perspective of Human Design. As we know, Emotional Center is responsible for emotional and psychological pressure. People with a certain Emotional Center often exert pressure on those with this Center open. Sometimes it happens even unconsciously.
And it is for this reason that bearers of uncertain Emotional Center may find it very difficult to communicate with those who pressurize them with certain emotions. It is people with an open Emotional Center who are most often afraid of offending their interlocutors and, sometimes not withstanding the pressure, agree to terms that do not suit them or make concessions.
So how do carriers of a certain Emotional cope with psychological pressure?
Here are a few recommendations.
Voice your emotional truth with Strategy and Authority in mind.
The inability to voice one’s emotional truth is perhaps one of the biggest problems of Uncertain Emotional Center carriers. If they learn to voice directly what they are feeling, their tendency to succumb to emotional pressure will gradually wane.
During a conversation, imagine that there is an impenetrable wall between you and your interlocutor.
This will create for you a certain threshold of protection, even if imaginary. Just imagine how the words and threats of your interlocutor bounce off the imaginary wall. It will also not be superfluous to put real physical objects between you and your opponent. So the psychological barrier between you will increase even more, and therefore you will not give in to pressure from his side.
Take closed poses.
This also helps to establish a psychological barrier. Thus, you protect yourself from your opponent, not allowing him to put pressure on you.
Do not come into conflict with the interlocutor.
If you conflict directly with the bearer of a certain Emotional Center, especially if he is at the bottom of the emotional wave, it is likely to end in no good way. Believe me, the bearer of a certain Emotional Center in conflict initially has an advantage over you, for any certainty produces an energy of stability and confidence, while openness on the contrary indicates insecurity.
Try to divert the attention of your interlocutor.
If the person starts to put emotional pressure on you, try to move his or her attention to something distant. For example, change the subject of the conversation. Make him notice something that has nothing to do with you.
And most importantly, remember: the emotions of the bearers of defined Emotional Center have nothing to do with you. You are not at all obliged to experience the emotions that they attribute to you intentionally or unconsciously. So try to relax and don’t forget to follow your Strategy and Authority in every situation!